I am surprised I still know how to get to this home away from home! It has been SO long! And that isn't just one of those niceties (sp?) you say when you haven't seen someone in a long time (and can't remember their name)! You know you haven't been blogging in a long time when it hasn't saved in your cache (and automatically populates your browser field) and when you have to sign on with password and everything (which isn't the case if you are a daily...weekly...or bi-weekly enter-er)!
Obviously I somehow cranked that one brain cell to remind me of my password - whew!
Yes, I should be sleeping. I have a teething 11 month old who napped on me way late in the day (4:30 PM - 6 PM) so she just went down at 10:30. Eek!!! With our usual two (or more) wake up calls, I am surprised I am able to tell my fingers what to do at 11 PM at night! Granted I dosed her down for her teething symptoms - Acetiminphen (sp?) for her pain and aches (aches and pain???), teething tablets for her surface gums, Vick's Baby Rub for her runny nose & congestion. But that girl has battery power that could fuel the earth in a black out!! I am betting on a 1 - 2 AM wake up call from my sweet boss lady.
But here I am.
It has been so long, my friends. I think, since the last I posted, H is crawling (now almost walking), I did my huge Wells Fargo event (a success - thank you...haha!), my reunion - so INCREDIBLE to see my old classmates (and I don't mean old as age), H's first Halloween, H's first Thanksgiving and H's first experience with a Christmas tree!! Ummmmm, can you tell that H has been my A1A prority lately? Whew!!
Beyond all that, I still have a cat that pukes daily, a dog that stinks by the minute and a house that is constant maintenance. I have a husband about to buy an RV, a baby about to pop 20 teeth and a step-daughter who has a more interesting social life than this 38 year old. I have a tree up, decorations still to be put out, a loud dishwasher, a dream of a play room upstairs and a bed that needs to be burned as fire wood and another bed bought.
Can you relate?
But here I am, back again. You can keep me occupied but you can't keep me away (what the hell was that noise in the dishwasher??). I sit here looking at our Christmas tree that we put up in a new location in the dining room (love it!) - half decorated but beautiful nonetheless - and remember how uncomfortably pregnant I was the last time I put it up and how FREAKED OUT I was that there would be a BABY at our feet the next time we put it up - how does THAT happen? It does. And it was awesome. I can't believe what a year can do.
Thank you for following - if you still are...I know I took a longer than allowed hiatus but I am back and gonna try to stay here as much as possible. I mean, this entry took 11 minutes! That's nothing...other than 11 minutes I haven't slept while H IS sleeping!
Goodnight all! Much love!
Monday, November 29, 2010
Sunday, September 12, 2010
Woot Woot!
Summers are long in the desert as it is...but, when you are a football fan, it is like a child waiting for Christmas. It feels like it will NEVER end! From the time the QB throws the last pass at Super Bowl until the coin toss of pre-season, it is a VERY long, VERY hot, VERY slow summer.
Don't get me wrong. I think baseball is cool. But only if I am there in person. I don't really follow it much on TV. Baseball = stadium nachos, tall, cool, expensive drafts and the archaic organ playing Take Me Back to the Ballgame. It is all very fun...in person and under a cool summer night.
I'm not opposed to any sport. I really enjoy the sound of the crowd, the excitement of the competition and the undying determination of the team. I can get into just about anything if I really give it a shot. Except for golf which just bores the hell out of me.
But football is where my heart lives. The sounds of the helmets as they collide during a play. The unexpected pass that solidly falls within the arms of the receiver. It is the unexpected interception, the hail mary touchdown, the game winning field goal...that's what makes my heart skip a beat. Especially when it gives my team the advantage!
And my team...is...the...STEELERS!!!! Don't hate haters!!
Today marked the first Sunday football of the season. Unfortunately, my team was scrubbed from any stations out here in the Old Pueblo so I wasn't able to show them love (although I DID wear my colors today!) But a big WOOT WOOT for their win over the Falcons in OT. This with Dixon as our QB while our hussy lovin QB "Big Ben" is sitting on the sidelines with his...never mind. I personally like Dixon better. Always have. I really like watching him play. Ben drives me nuts with his "let me wait until the last dying minute to throw the ball...oh damn I got sacked" strategy. Dixon, on the other hand, has real QB goodies!! He will run that ball if he needs to, he will pass it where he needs to and QUICK and he has a place in my heart. I wouldn't shed one small tear if Ben had to go to some sort of sex therapy home with Tiger and Dixon had to take over.
Oh sorry. I got off on a tangent. I am just so thrilled that football season is here. I love fall...just the time of year in general. I loved it most in Louisville (where I am from) because of the colors, the smells, the crisp cool air that cuts through the humidity of summer. Out here in the desert, fall marks temps more in the 90s along with cool mornings that certainly don't require a sweater but does give your desert adapted skin goosebumps.
When I hear the roar of the crowds and the idiocracy of the commentators from a distant room of the house, I expect to smell my chili simmering on the stove - spicy and hot. I expect to see a quality amber beer slightly spilling over a cold, frosty mug. I expect to be wearing one of my many Steelers shirts, ear rings (well, not with a baby), my new Steelers bracelet and possibly even my jersey (saved for special games). I expect to have my terrible towel either in my hand or close to the TV. I expect that my beautiful daughter and step-daughter to be wearing their Steeler outfits with pride. They each have their own terrible towel that they have each had lessons on how to twirl them (my 8 month old has crazy arms anyway so it works out well). I expect to have my blood pressure escalate and my foul mouth hindered (when the kids are around at least). I expect to be entertained, let down, fired up, proud and exhausted. Ahhh, I love this time of year...more than any other.
Happy Fall and Happy Football Season!!!
Friday, September 10, 2010
Great things come to those who wait...
I feel like, everytime I visit my blog to add an entry, I am always apologizing for my long absence. And this time I owe you a huge apology since some of you might be waiting on the edge of your e-seat to see if you won the latest giveaway - a Baby Cakes headband.
I used Free Random Number Generator and, out of 12 entries, number 6 is the winner...congratulations AMY!!! I don't believe you left an email address but I believe you are following my FB page. I will post this announcement there as well. Contact Lauren directly through Baby Cakes to choose your colors and the size of your flower for your headband.
In other news, my brain is full of topics I want to chat with you about. But, lately I have had an abundance of work to do on this freelance event project as well as a teething baby girl that has really needed my undivided love and attention. And she is my first and most important boss!
My energy level has been pretty non-existent by the time I sit down to type. My typical day doesn't "end" until 9 or 9:30 and then I have to kick it into high gear to catch up on my project. My blog has taken more than the backseat...it is damn near in the trunk...or the trailer hitched to this constant moving car!
But I really want to get back into writing so I am going to try to fit it in tomorrow night post-baby-bedtime (depending on number of wake ups during the night). Here are some topics I want to discuss:
> Babies & TV's...
> Another Momma Truth - Postpartum Depression is REAL...what you may not know could hurt you!
> Is it true if you see one roach there are 100?
> What makes a house a home?
And so many other posts full of words that are rolling aimlessly around in my head.
I will do my best to be here tomorrow. I want to update H's blog as well! She has done SO MUCH since just last week when I posted! She is growing up so fast.
Thanks for you patience, my loyal loves. I will be here tomorrow (baby willing) to bore you with my nonsense!
CONGRATS AMY!
I used Free Random Number Generator and, out of 12 entries, number 6 is the winner...congratulations AMY!!! I don't believe you left an email address but I believe you are following my FB page. I will post this announcement there as well. Contact Lauren directly through Baby Cakes to choose your colors and the size of your flower for your headband.
In other news, my brain is full of topics I want to chat with you about. But, lately I have had an abundance of work to do on this freelance event project as well as a teething baby girl that has really needed my undivided love and attention. And she is my first and most important boss!
My energy level has been pretty non-existent by the time I sit down to type. My typical day doesn't "end" until 9 or 9:30 and then I have to kick it into high gear to catch up on my project. My blog has taken more than the backseat...it is damn near in the trunk...or the trailer hitched to this constant moving car!
But I really want to get back into writing so I am going to try to fit it in tomorrow night post-baby-bedtime (depending on number of wake ups during the night). Here are some topics I want to discuss:
> Babies & TV's...
> Another Momma Truth - Postpartum Depression is REAL...what you may not know could hurt you!
> Is it true if you see one roach there are 100?
> What makes a house a home?
And so many other posts full of words that are rolling aimlessly around in my head.
I will do my best to be here tomorrow. I want to update H's blog as well! She has done SO MUCH since just last week when I posted! She is growing up so fast.
Thanks for you patience, my loyal loves. I will be here tomorrow (baby willing) to bore you with my nonsense!
CONGRATS AMY!
Tuesday, August 31, 2010
Momma Hopes:
~ I hope that I will be the kind of Mom that will teach H to be independent and to take care of herself - even in tough times, instead of passing blame, being responsible for her own decisions and actions.
~ I hope that I will support her by teaching her how to live her life self sufficiently and not by hoping others will hand her a golden egg.
~ I hope that I instill values like the ones that have kept me independent and not reliant on others mercy. Those values are work hard, play hard and treat others the way you would like to be treated.
~ I hope I teach her that SHE is responsible for situations in her life. I will be here to help her but not to bail her out every time. I want her to learn how to bail herself out so that she can feel that sense of self accomplishment.
~ I hope that I won't be the kind of mom that spends what I don't have in order to look like a hero but, instead, acts the hero by showing H options to help herself out.
~ I hope to teach H the value of friendship
~ I hope to be both H's friend and mommy - providing discipline with a large side of fun and love!
~ I hope to have open lines of communication that includes sex, drugs, alcohol and any new craziness like sexting (or whatever is the "new" thing when she is a tween, pre-teen, teen). I want her to know that I am here for her with all the tools necessary to keep her safe without looking like a total prude.
~ I hope that I can drive her to be driven. Not just look at classes but at education. Not just look for a job but a career. Not to be tied up in mainstream society but in her beliefs as an individual.
~ I hope that I can have answers...at least most of the time.
~ I hope that I can live up to these hopes. I think it will be detrimental to H's independence and self assurance if I don't.
~ I hope to be the best mom I can be to the best girl I have ever known.
~ I hope that I will be the kind of Mom that will teach H to be independent and to take care of herself - even in tough times, instead of passing blame, being responsible for her own decisions and actions.
~ I hope that I will support her by teaching her how to live her life self sufficiently and not by hoping others will hand her a golden egg.
~ I hope that I instill values like the ones that have kept me independent and not reliant on others mercy. Those values are work hard, play hard and treat others the way you would like to be treated.
~ I hope I teach her that SHE is responsible for situations in her life. I will be here to help her but not to bail her out every time. I want her to learn how to bail herself out so that she can feel that sense of self accomplishment.
~ I hope that I won't be the kind of mom that spends what I don't have in order to look like a hero but, instead, acts the hero by showing H options to help herself out.
~ I hope to teach H the value of friendship
~ I hope to be both H's friend and mommy - providing discipline with a large side of fun and love!
~ I hope to have open lines of communication that includes sex, drugs, alcohol and any new craziness like sexting (or whatever is the "new" thing when she is a tween, pre-teen, teen). I want her to know that I am here for her with all the tools necessary to keep her safe without looking like a total prude.
~ I hope that I can drive her to be driven. Not just look at classes but at education. Not just look for a job but a career. Not to be tied up in mainstream society but in her beliefs as an individual.
~ I hope that I can have answers...at least most of the time.
~ I hope that I can live up to these hopes. I think it will be detrimental to H's independence and self assurance if I don't.
~ I hope to be the best mom I can be to the best girl I have ever known.
Sunday, August 29, 2010
Where does the time go...BUT GIVEAWAY TIME IS HERE!
Ok, I first said Monday, then Hump Day and then I disappeared in a dark abyss. Ain't that just the way...nothin' but a tease (versus a bad perm). Anyway, I am happy to say I am here with some awesome news! It is giveaway time!
As you know from my last giveaway, I am proudly supporting my sister-in-law on her new business venture - Baby Cakes. She hand makes adorable MUST HAVE items for those with babies (or those needing to find the perfect gift for someone who has a baby or is going to have a baby). Last week we featured her handy sippy cup/bottle strap that I happen to use daily with H. It is a life saver for those times when she is in her high chair (or a high chair at a restaurant) and she wants her sippy. You can clip it on your high chair cover or the chair itself and, when the baby pushes, throws or drops the cup overboard, the strap catches it before it hits the beer stained carpet below (no, not speaking of my house - that was if it were in a restaurant, thank you very little!).
This week is a special treat for those with (or those who know) baby girls. I was one who always thought (for the whole one or two years I thought I even wanted a baby)that I wanted a boy. Always felt I would be a better boy mom than a girl mom. Not in to fru-fru pink stuff. I am into sports...I wanted a boy I could enjoy sports with. On and on.
But then I had a girl. Only the best, most beautiful, most amazing and fun baby girl EVER! Am I biased you ask? Ummm...hell yeah.
All of a sudden my dreams of khakis and button down collared shirts turned to ruffled sleeves, pretty dresses, bloomers and tutus. Not sure how that happened but it is only getting worse, not better.
Now, the giveaway is for a very adorable, hand-made, crocheted headband made in colors of YOUR choice that best suits your baby (or the baby of the long lost friend inviting you to her seventh baby shower). I will admit...quite fully actually...that I was never into the headband frenzy. They always seem too tight and leave a mark similar to the waist band of my pants on the fragile head of a new baby. I never did get the flowers that would grace a newborn's head that was bigger than the baby themselves. It just wasn't something I was into.
But things change as quick as the baby themselves. I still don't want a flower or anything bigger than her face but a headband doesn't seem to be out of the question. Especially when it is the color of the football team of our choice!! NOW we are talking a language I can understand!
The awesome thing about the Baby Cake headbands is that you can either get them "fitted" or you can get them so that you can TIE them to the size of your baby's head. I opt'd for that option. It is AWESOME because I can tie it to the EXACT size of her head without leaving that horrendous waist band mark on her little buddha head.
That being said, because these headbands are crocheted, they have great stretch ability! So it will not be tight even on the largest of beanies. What a great concept.
The colors you can choose from (yes, you get to CHOOSE your color combos from the options on their website... even with the giveaway) are almost endless. I'm actually serious. So let your creative juices flow!
Not only that, but you can choose from a large flower or a small flower. Now, here is something else to blow your mind. The flowers are CLIPPED on so that you can remove them if you want JUST the headband and/or you can use the clipped-on flower as an accessory all by itself! So, really? You are looking at THREE hair accessories in ONE! Pretty cool!
Here are some shots of my baby and my step-daughter with their Baby Cake headbands. I apologize for them being blurry. My husband had the camera on a business trip so I had to use my phone. And it is obviously better with phone calls than with pics! But hopefully you can get the idea and then hit the Baby Cakes Facebook page for more photos!
My sweet H with the headband and small flower
My sweet H with JUST the headband
My gorgeous step-daughter with the LARGER flower
The girls with the complete look! Thanks to Baby Cakes!
Now, usually when bloggers do giveaways, they receive the product for free. I bought these two items myself because I loved them so much (and I didn't feel right begging for free stuff - haha!!). I am looking forward to a full (and successful) football season with the girls sporting these cute headbands.
Ok, time for the rules to enter this giveaway (VERY easy):
Mandatory entries
1. Become a follower of my blog (would love to have ya!). If you are already a follower, please note that you are.
2. Become a follower of Baby Cakes blog - click here.
For additional entries
1. Become a "fan" of Housewife Facebook page
2. Become a "fan" of Baby Cakes Facebook page
3. Leave a comment on Baby Cakes Facebook page of which colors you prefer.
4. Suggest a friend - each friend that enters the giveaway (must at least do the mandatory entries) will earn you another entry!
5. Mention this giveaway in your blog and link back to this page
Please leave a SEPARATE comment for EACH entry you make that includes your EMAIL ADDRESS.
Edited to add: DEADLINE FOR ENTRIES IS MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 6, 2010 AT MIDNIGHT EDT
Ready, set, GO!!
As you know from my last giveaway, I am proudly supporting my sister-in-law on her new business venture - Baby Cakes. She hand makes adorable MUST HAVE items for those with babies (or those needing to find the perfect gift for someone who has a baby or is going to have a baby). Last week we featured her handy sippy cup/bottle strap that I happen to use daily with H. It is a life saver for those times when she is in her high chair (or a high chair at a restaurant) and she wants her sippy. You can clip it on your high chair cover or the chair itself and, when the baby pushes, throws or drops the cup overboard, the strap catches it before it hits the beer stained carpet below (no, not speaking of my house - that was if it were in a restaurant, thank you very little!).
This week is a special treat for those with (or those who know) baby girls. I was one who always thought (for the whole one or two years I thought I even wanted a baby)that I wanted a boy. Always felt I would be a better boy mom than a girl mom. Not in to fru-fru pink stuff. I am into sports...I wanted a boy I could enjoy sports with. On and on.
But then I had a girl. Only the best, most beautiful, most amazing and fun baby girl EVER! Am I biased you ask? Ummm...hell yeah.
All of a sudden my dreams of khakis and button down collared shirts turned to ruffled sleeves, pretty dresses, bloomers and tutus. Not sure how that happened but it is only getting worse, not better.
Now, the giveaway is for a very adorable, hand-made, crocheted headband made in colors of YOUR choice that best suits your baby (or the baby of the long lost friend inviting you to her seventh baby shower). I will admit...quite fully actually...that I was never into the headband frenzy. They always seem too tight and leave a mark similar to the waist band of my pants on the fragile head of a new baby. I never did get the flowers that would grace a newborn's head that was bigger than the baby themselves. It just wasn't something I was into.
But things change as quick as the baby themselves. I still don't want a flower or anything bigger than her face but a headband doesn't seem to be out of the question. Especially when it is the color of the football team of our choice!! NOW we are talking a language I can understand!
The awesome thing about the Baby Cake headbands is that you can either get them "fitted" or you can get them so that you can TIE them to the size of your baby's head. I opt'd for that option. It is AWESOME because I can tie it to the EXACT size of her head without leaving that horrendous waist band mark on her little buddha head.
That being said, because these headbands are crocheted, they have great stretch ability! So it will not be tight even on the largest of beanies. What a great concept.
The colors you can choose from (yes, you get to CHOOSE your color combos from the options on their website... even with the giveaway) are almost endless. I'm actually serious. So let your creative juices flow!
Not only that, but you can choose from a large flower or a small flower. Now, here is something else to blow your mind. The flowers are CLIPPED on so that you can remove them if you want JUST the headband and/or you can use the clipped-on flower as an accessory all by itself! So, really? You are looking at THREE hair accessories in ONE! Pretty cool!
Here are some shots of my baby and my step-daughter with their Baby Cake headbands. I apologize for them being blurry. My husband had the camera on a business trip so I had to use my phone. And it is obviously better with phone calls than with pics! But hopefully you can get the idea and then hit the Baby Cakes Facebook page for more photos!
My sweet H with the headband and small flower
My sweet H with JUST the headband
My gorgeous step-daughter with the LARGER flower
The girls with the complete look! Thanks to Baby Cakes!
Now, usually when bloggers do giveaways, they receive the product for free. I bought these two items myself because I loved them so much (and I didn't feel right begging for free stuff - haha!!). I am looking forward to a full (and successful) football season with the girls sporting these cute headbands.
Ok, time for the rules to enter this giveaway (VERY easy):
Mandatory entries
1. Become a follower of my blog (would love to have ya!). If you are already a follower, please note that you are.
2. Become a follower of Baby Cakes blog - click here.
For additional entries
1. Become a "fan" of Housewife Facebook page
2. Become a "fan" of Baby Cakes Facebook page
3. Leave a comment on Baby Cakes Facebook page of which colors you prefer.
4. Suggest a friend - each friend that enters the giveaway (must at least do the mandatory entries) will earn you another entry!
5. Mention this giveaway in your blog and link back to this page
Please leave a SEPARATE comment for EACH entry you make that includes your EMAIL ADDRESS.
Edited to add: DEADLINE FOR ENTRIES IS MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 6, 2010 AT MIDNIGHT EDT
Ready, set, GO!!
Monday, August 23, 2010
Today was a long day...seems like I have been up forever. Wait, I have! But it was a good day. A good day after many that were a bit more challenging. More emotional. I felt great today - especially after my workout. Can you believe that H stayed awake all the way home and ended up taking a two hour nap
IN HER CRIB? I just kept her up until she seemed to be too tired to continue playing...it was around 11 or so. I hope tomorrow she will do the same. It was nice to shower and get some event work done during that two hours! Thanks H!
I was hoping to kick the week off with another giveaway from Baby Cakes but they are in the process of adding some more kick butt inventory and I need to get my stash of very cute, handmade headbands so I can include a picture of my sweetie with the goods! So I decided to make hump day the giveaway day! Don't miss it!
In other news, there is just so much other news. I need to carry around a stack of sticky notes so that I can write down the flood of thoughts I have throughout the day. They always pop in mind when it is inconvenient to take notes - running on the treadmill, changing a diaper, hitting the head, showering (quickly)...
I must say, though, the growing trend in most of my entries is my sheer exhaustion. It isn't necessarily H's fault (although she usually wakes up once or twice a night for some grub)...I just don't seem to sleep well anymore. I don't know if I am just anticipating the wake up call so I don't allow myself to really get to that deep sleep or what.
You know...I will take a post it - or just some sort of writing instrument and paper...around with me tomorrow and see what I jot down. Maybe I will simply relay my thoughts in that random way just for fun. You would be amazed how my head works on a daily basis!!
Question - do you ever notice that, when you watch something on TV where the people smile a lot (I am watching...not sure why...Ms Universe) you end up smiling as well? I was just noticing how my face was kinda hurting and then realized why. I was smiling with all of the fake smiles I was watching. Not for nothing.
Goodnight. Random thoughts heading your way tomorrow!
IN HER CRIB? I just kept her up until she seemed to be too tired to continue playing...it was around 11 or so. I hope tomorrow she will do the same. It was nice to shower and get some event work done during that two hours! Thanks H!
I was hoping to kick the week off with another giveaway from Baby Cakes but they are in the process of adding some more kick butt inventory and I need to get my stash of very cute, handmade headbands so I can include a picture of my sweetie with the goods! So I decided to make hump day the giveaway day! Don't miss it!
In other news, there is just so much other news. I need to carry around a stack of sticky notes so that I can write down the flood of thoughts I have throughout the day. They always pop in mind when it is inconvenient to take notes - running on the treadmill, changing a diaper, hitting the head, showering (quickly)...
I must say, though, the growing trend in most of my entries is my sheer exhaustion. It isn't necessarily H's fault (although she usually wakes up once or twice a night for some grub)...I just don't seem to sleep well anymore. I don't know if I am just anticipating the wake up call so I don't allow myself to really get to that deep sleep or what.
You know...I will take a post it - or just some sort of writing instrument and paper...around with me tomorrow and see what I jot down. Maybe I will simply relay my thoughts in that random way just for fun. You would be amazed how my head works on a daily basis!!
Question - do you ever notice that, when you watch something on TV where the people smile a lot (I am watching...not sure why...Ms Universe) you end up smiling as well? I was just noticing how my face was kinda hurting and then realized why. I was smiling with all of the fake smiles I was watching. Not for nothing.
Goodnight. Random thoughts heading your way tomorrow!
Sunday, August 22, 2010
Hidden in the woodwork
It is time for a new series. I always have a ton to talk about but not a lot of time (or energy) to write. But I am thinking if I periodically have "series" that I can turn to, it will help keep me motivated to write. No worries. I will write more about my overly exciting life from time to time as well.
Hidden in the Woodwork gives me an opportunity to share with you strange, different, uncommon or not well known things in our world that is swept under the carpet or just not really prevalent in our everyday lives. It may lead to debate or controversy but it will most certainly (or hopefully) open your (and my) eyes to new lifestyles, view points and theories.
So to kick off my new series Hidden in the Woodwork I must share with you something I came across while browsing the internet while H slept on me for two additional hours after her first hour in her crib. When I read some of these stories and blogs about this lifestyle, I am still scratching my head but really wanted to share to a) see if I am the only one that didn't know this existed and b) to get your feedback on the issue.
How many of you have heard about DD relationships? Do you know what the DD stands for? Nope, not dungeons and dragons. DD stands for "Domestic Discipline" and it stems from "Christian" roots. Basically, the belief is that the man is head of the household and makes the rules for the house. If anyone breaks those rules, including the wife, they are spanked. Sometimes pretty extensively. Other punishments can also be executed such as soap in the mouth for poor language. The spankings can be distributed either by the hand or by items such as paddles, belts, dog leashes, etc.
Ummm...I am a pretty open-minded person and I admit I am not a Christian. Since my only bible studying was in Catholic school at a very young age, maybe I forgot the words and messages it portrays. I don't remember it saying that a woman was to be beaten...I mean, spanked...if she goes against some "rules" the "head" of the household makes. I guess I can see some Christians buying into the theory of the man being the head of the home since their god is a man and their "savior" is a man. And then you have the whole Adam/Eve story. So I can see that part of it. But the beatings...shoot, I mean "spankings," why do I feel like this is just a way for strict, conservative Christians to justify getting their kink on under the sheets?
I could be wrong and I am always trying to keep an open mind with no judgement. I don't live in their house nor do they in mine. Everyone lives in different ways and I always say, to each their own. Maybe these women have security issues. Maybe they didn't get enough hugs from their dad when they were young. Or maybe they got too many hugs from daddy. And the men? Well, I am sure that there are more than a handful of men that would jump into a relationship like this with both cemented feet! To know that you are in control and can punish anyone who gets in their way? Come on...
Of course all anyone wants is to be happy and most of these couples say that their marriage couldn't be better. That this punishment/recovery/forgiveness plan makes them feel closer as a couple. Again, to each their own. I personally feel like it is abuse. Consensual abuse. One-sided abuse. But what do I know?
Here is a link to some information so that you can formulate your own opinion. And if you google search it, you will find much more. Just be careful because it is right on the verge of more perverse videos and articles that will just corrupt your computer and plaster porn all over your screen.
http://www.christiandd.com/husbands/brent1.html
What are your thoughts?
Hidden in the Woodwork gives me an opportunity to share with you strange, different, uncommon or not well known things in our world that is swept under the carpet or just not really prevalent in our everyday lives. It may lead to debate or controversy but it will most certainly (or hopefully) open your (and my) eyes to new lifestyles, view points and theories.
So to kick off my new series Hidden in the Woodwork I must share with you something I came across while browsing the internet while H slept on me for two additional hours after her first hour in her crib. When I read some of these stories and blogs about this lifestyle, I am still scratching my head but really wanted to share to a) see if I am the only one that didn't know this existed and b) to get your feedback on the issue.
How many of you have heard about DD relationships? Do you know what the DD stands for? Nope, not dungeons and dragons. DD stands for "Domestic Discipline" and it stems from "Christian" roots. Basically, the belief is that the man is head of the household and makes the rules for the house. If anyone breaks those rules, including the wife, they are spanked. Sometimes pretty extensively. Other punishments can also be executed such as soap in the mouth for poor language. The spankings can be distributed either by the hand or by items such as paddles, belts, dog leashes, etc.
Ummm...I am a pretty open-minded person and I admit I am not a Christian. Since my only bible studying was in Catholic school at a very young age, maybe I forgot the words and messages it portrays. I don't remember it saying that a woman was to be beaten...I mean, spanked...if she goes against some "rules" the "head" of the household makes. I guess I can see some Christians buying into the theory of the man being the head of the home since their god is a man and their "savior" is a man. And then you have the whole Adam/Eve story. So I can see that part of it. But the beatings...shoot, I mean "spankings," why do I feel like this is just a way for strict, conservative Christians to justify getting their kink on under the sheets?
I could be wrong and I am always trying to keep an open mind with no judgement. I don't live in their house nor do they in mine. Everyone lives in different ways and I always say, to each their own. Maybe these women have security issues. Maybe they didn't get enough hugs from their dad when they were young. Or maybe they got too many hugs from daddy. And the men? Well, I am sure that there are more than a handful of men that would jump into a relationship like this with both cemented feet! To know that you are in control and can punish anyone who gets in their way? Come on...
Of course all anyone wants is to be happy and most of these couples say that their marriage couldn't be better. That this punishment/recovery/forgiveness plan makes them feel closer as a couple. Again, to each their own. I personally feel like it is abuse. Consensual abuse. One-sided abuse. But what do I know?
Here is a link to some information so that you can formulate your own opinion. And if you google search it, you will find much more. Just be careful because it is right on the verge of more perverse videos and articles that will just corrupt your computer and plaster porn all over your screen.
http://www.christiandd.com/husbands/brent1.html
What are your thoughts?
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