The Chronicles of a Housewife

A wild ride and no change today!

I haven't been on much because H has been all in my business the last few days, I have been diligently working on that awards event I am planning and have been trying to keep up with my chores in between!  My usual evening blog time has been replaced with droopy, sleepy eyes and mild break downs. 

But I am happy to report that I am back!  At least for today.  This is one small (yet substantial) step in the right direction.  Here I am at 98 followers (only 4 or 5 probably really "follow" me - and that may be generous) and I am slacking worse than I did at 9!  I will try to do better (I say as H starts to fuss).

The event I am working on is going great!  Not only does it give me my fix of planning, it also gives me a nice dose of adult time and a chance to use my brain on something other than the best baby supplies or how to make mango-pineapple chutney for dinner.  We are in the beginning stages of the planning but next week will really put a lot of duties in my court.  I am excited and a bit nervous at the same time.  I have a great friend of mine, who I used to work with at the planning company I last worked for, helping me on this event so he will be here one day next week to help get some packets stuffed.  It's a glamorous gig!

H is doing awesome!  We started her on solids this past Monday...solids = very runny rice cereal (not MY idea of a great meal...but just about all I can muster these days for T and I).  She LOVES it and has such an awesome time.  I wish she would have opened her mouth as wide as she does for the spoon when I was nursing her months ago!!!  That would have definitely helped the latch situation!  It is so cute, H in her big girl high chair leaning towards the spoon each time.  A spoonful of slop is followed by a fistful of fingers!  Needless to say, this is not the most clean process!  Luckily her bath follows her chow by about an hour with a good moist wipe to take care of the bigger chunks in between.  I can't wait until she can try other kinds of food.  I wonder if she will like a lot of the same things T and I do. 

AND I am excited to start making baby food!  I already have my cookbook out waiting!  Now for some needed supplies to assist in the storage of it...

T is heading back out of town a lot over the next month or so but I have friends and family lined up ready to keep H and I company (and sane).  My Mom is coming in town for a very short, two-day visit.  She just can't be away from H too long.  Between work and H, I will be pretty crammed next week...ooooh, did my brain full of random, unorganized thoughts tell you I am having a girls night tonight??  Yep, with a BFF of mine.  Dinner and a couple of beers (no more than what the law will allow) and some great GIRL conversation!!  Time for some catch up...

***And timeout number 1 to go put H in her crib for a nap***

Ok, two hours later and I am back.  You see why my entries sometimes lag.  She has napped, I showered, she ate and now we are full circle back to fussing!  It's good to know what to expect out of each day.

Speaking of my girls night.  I lurk on a board that has other mommies and the latest topic has been friends.  How they feel like their relationship with their friends have changed since having a baby.  That their friends don't call or come by like they used to.

Having a baby no doubt changes your life.  It also changes your relationships (even the one with your husband to some degree - closer or not..thankfully I am one of the lucky ones).  And friends are definitely in that category.  I think, as mommies, we become so engrossed in life as a new mom (isn't my baby beautiful, guess what my baby did today, baby coo'd the funniest thing) that we forget that not EVERYONE is baby crazy like we are!  I mean, it doesn't mean that they don't love our babies or think our babies are beautiful.  But that isn't their entire lives like it is ours.  I always have to remember that.

This is coming from experience too.  I used to not only be as single as single can be, I also didn't really like kids.  I never thought babies were awwww so cute or anything like that.  I figured that, not only would I never get married, I sure the HELL wasn't going to have a baby!  I'm not saying that all of my friends feel this way - many don't.  But they are not in the same place that I am right now.  They have lives too.  And I want to know about them.  Do I want to talk about H every minute of every day?  What new mommy doesn't?  But I DO want to hear how my single friends are...what they were up to last weekend...what awesome pub they found when hanging out with their girlfriends.  Envious?  Yeah, maybe.  But I am so in love with my life right now that I am ok with hearing about the single fun!  Luckily, I spent every waking (and some non-waking) moment in my 20's with my girlfriends, at the clubs, at home enjoying ME time, etc.  So I don't mind hearing about the fun!

The bottom line is that I love my friends.  I am very lucky to have awesome friends both here in the desert and back home in the Bluegrass!!  I am surrounded by awesomeness!!  And I know that, as a new mommy, I (and I alone) MUST make the effort to see my girls (and my guy friends too).  Your single friends don't know what kind of time, if any, you have to see them.  I think a lot of times they feel bad asking you to do something not knowing if you can get away.  Or if you will need to cancel.  Or if you really want to get away...they don't know.  I truly feel that it is our responsibility to keep up with pre-baby relationships! 

I just love hanging out with my girls so much...it doesn't seem much like an effort at all!  It just isn't as frequent as it used to be for obvious reasons.

But that's my two cents.  Give your pre-baby girls a break.  Don't pull out the Polaroids...don't do a play-by-play of the last month in the life of baby...love the girl time!!