If and when a baby Spencer enters the picture, it will have such a pleasant environment to grow up within. A clean, stable home with a Mom that will be able to give undivided attention and a Dad that will be working within the home - lunches as a family, an occasional bike ride in the middle of the day and a schedule that will, hopefully, allow Mommy time to get some things done around the house. Play dates with other stay at home Mommy's that I know and a beautiful room with a dark wood sleigh bed crib, changing table and awesome rocker (T and I have SUCH the same tastes!!). When that day comes, we will be ready - financially, mentally and emotionally.
Funny, I was on one of the websites that I frequent that have other pregnant people or people trying to become pregnant. Someone posted an article regarding parents over 35. It was so interesting...and true. It spoke of the benefits of being an over 35 parent - financial stability, life experience, settled in career, and just more well rounded as a person. I couldn't agree more. I have had moments where I wondered if was a bad idea, us trying to have a baby at "my age." But, believe it or not, I am very YOUNG compared to one out of five mom's out there. Many are well over 40 and don't have any regrets or concerns. They all agree that they feel their maturity makes them much better parents. I can see why they would feel that way. I have learned a lot, changed a lot, grown a lot, and have become a completely different person in the last 10 - 15 years. That is what I can offer a child.
Today is a beautiful day with many reasons to be thankful. My handsome, successful husband is making his way home from a business trip, my beautiful stepdaughter will be wrapping a bug hug around my neck when I pick her up this afternoon, my furry babies will cuddle up with me as I wait for T to walk through the door tonight, my muscles are pumped and ready for the gym next week, my heart is healthy and my house is clean. I no longer have to walk into a workplace that I dread or a dead end job where I feel stuck. I am definitely a lucky June Cleaver!
On another note, I am about to head out to visit iceland. It is quite a drive but it isn't to the country. It is the iceland we all know as Michelle's apartment. I am picking up Tatum today (after driving to the airport to get the car seat out of T's car) at 5 PM. Although I am not going to iceland the country, it will still take me a full two hours to arrive due to the airport stop. But, no worries, the ice will not have thawed and the glare will still be there. All this means to me? That I have to wear makeup, somewhat do my hair and make sure I look my best. Or as close to my best as I can four days pre-hair appointment + a convertible top that WILL be down for this drive.
In closing, some pics to entertain (or to fill in space):
The garden completed:
Just another wider shot:
A repeat look at the herb pot - I LOVE this pot!
Our very pretty Oleander that is loving life...
And blooming!
One of our Red Yucca's that now has THREE stalks!!
And the other who's stalk is almost as tall as me!
Everything is blooming so nice:
The Hop Seed Bush:
Momma's boys at the door (and my feet in the reflection):
My little Lavender in her BIG world! We have such aspirations for her!
Go ahead and call animal cruelty. It's true. Our babies are spoiled beyond healthy!
Brrrrr...I feel the ice now...
5 comments:
It's great that you are happy with your choices, but they are what is right for you and not universal. My home is not embarrassing, and my furniture is not dusty (today!). My children are happy and healthy and we have a wonderful home life. Being a stay-at-home anything is not the lifestyle I would choose, but I don't assume others feel the same way. Maybe you didn't mean it that way, but your post comes off as a little judgemental. I wouldn't trade lives with you, but I'm glad you are euphoric!
Congradulations on the good life..i am very happy for you! We too have a couple of yuccas (white flower variety) but the stalks won't be coming up for a good while yet in this area. The garden looks great..you've come far grasshopper! We're writing you tonight and you'll likely get a card and letter next week from down south..won't have access to the dell for a while but the cell will be on all the time. Steer clear of the ice and bask in the sun...aaats..love, DAD
Wow - I have to agree with the other poster - judge much?? I understand this is your personal diary, and I can choose to read it or not. Trust me after one read I won't be back. It's wonderful that you're happy with your choices...but try not look down on the rest of us in the real world who deal with the occasional "embarrassment of misplaced items or dusty furniture." I'm not sure why that's embarrassing - it's life for lots and lots of us who love our husbands and our families and somehow have happy, healthy (although it sounds like you'd beg to differ) home lives even though we choose to work outside the home.
As far as being ready "financially, mentally and emotionally" for children - trust me, you are very likely ready financially...but you can't get ready mentally or emotionally. You've got now idea how children rock your world when they arrive. You can talk to parents, you can read all you want - but nothing can prepare you for the reality. So go ahead and gloat about how prepared you are....and re-read these posts when children do enter your life, I think you'll be surprised at how they come across from a completely different point of view.
I'm thrilled for you that you're happy and fulfilled - it's great that you've made it to that point in life. And, I hope that you are blessed with the child(ren) that you so clearly want. But please, please, please walk a mile as they say before you judge those of us who have chosen different paths to our euphoria.
Wow, look at this...you started a war! Who would have known that by expressing your happiness someone would find it necessary to defend THEIR choices. It's funny to me because the only time people tend to get defensive about things that weren't directed towards them is when they're not truly happy themselves. And then they're too scared to admit it was them saying something...way to go anonymous! You sure told her! How amusing. How about grow some balls and have the courtesey to say "Hey, you offended me" so Dawna could at least explain herself and you could get over your misunderstanding. But hey, what do I know?! Maybe being bitter and hiding behind a computer is more fun...keep up the great work at entertaining me! :D
Will YOU play horseshoes with me on Sunday? ;)
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